Save your sanity, time & money!

You need to know how to meet your medical and/or mental health needs NOW. You're struggling to survive moment by moment. And you need your dignity.


You're rushing to appointments (the ones you remembered) and/or wondering which treatment to use. Meanwhile, your costs are rising, your needs are changing and you hardly know how to make sense of what to do first, second and later. What about the emotions boiling inside you? How can you calm down with all that's going on?

A former medical coder and medical writer, I've been in your position. I survived a life-threatening emergency with information only a person with my professional experience would know: How to find medical innovators, medical experts and charitable organizations willing to pay part or all of an applicant's specific medical costs, who has software to simplify medical appointment scheduling, a sensible list of items to pack for hospital stays, and more.

I knew that I'd pulled through because of my ability to connect with resources I needed. I knew that most patients lack that knowledge. I decided to provide it, to minimize your suffering.

I believe in empowering terrified, confused and unhappy people with dire diagnoses. I believe that patients should not suffer insults to their dignity in medical settings. I provide information that can help you to manage your problems better, maybe to end them, in the book.

Calm down. Organize your life better. You just might get your grin back.

Monday, February 20, 2017

Patients Make their Voices Heard!

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24 Shvat, 5777

I want to share what I consider to be an extraordinary article with you. Perhaps you'll feel enabled to speak up more, or at all, about the course of YOUR health care!


Let me know your thoughts about Mr Wolinsky's experience.

And please know, this is not the first time that a patient has addressed the wider medical world. The trend is increasingly popular as medical professionals realize its necessity.





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Wednesday, February 15, 2017

You'll Know this Byline!

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19 Shvat, 5777

The lovely holiday of Tu B'Shvat has passed and so has the date for my hand surgery. It didn't take place for reasons too boring to share here.

I've spent a few days recovering my composure (I've read some wonderful books) and letting my body relax from the stress I'd felt over the action-packed medical adventure plus some long-lasting cold, rainy weather.

As I enjoy the return to the usual pace of my daily life, I'm delighted to share the news of an article for mental health purposes.

Be sure to read the brief bio under Therapist Versus Listener: Which Should I Use? You'll certainly recognize the byline!




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Thursday, February 9, 2017

How to Increase Confidence with Humor

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13 Shvat, 5777

I am about to have corrective surgery on one hand. I'll need to stay off the keyboard awhile as the wound heals.




Before I take a necessary medical break, I'd like to share an insight with you.

My vital signs have been checked, and that happened shortly after I'd literally run across a large distance to distribute necessary medical papers at different offices. The nurse was impressed that my heart rate, pulse and breathing were rather close to my relaxed state, so I demonstrated to her what happens when I meditate. She whistled while watching the numbers decrease to my usual status.


That took years of practice!

When you face a serious medical or mental health challenge, some sort of daily stress or any type of nuisance, you have a choice: Dwell on it or focus on what can go right, what is in your power to control. That leads to the ability to choose acceptance, not to worsen an already difficult situation.

Not sure about that? 

Listen to this fascinating story about confidence, faith in The One Above.

Your emotions are real. Face them with honesty. Calm yourself with pro-active thought, actions and attitudes. Even when times are tough.

Emotional maturity is your gateway to ever-better coping skills.





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Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Heart-warming, LIFE-Saving News!

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12 Shvat, 5777

It's almost the holiday of Tu B'Shvat (Shvat 15th), the new year for trees, a sign of health for humanity. I am thrilled to share the following news at this time:

Whew! I was part of this pro-active fight back when I was working on-site in a US medical facility. Humanity WON!!!! YES!!!!!



White House backs ‘right to try’ law for terminally ill patients
The Food & Drug Administration campus in Silver Spring, Md. Proponents of a federal Right to Try law, which would give terminally ill patients easier access to experimental medicines, won support from the White House.
The Food & Drug Administration campus in Silver Spring, Md. Proponents of a federal Right to Try law, which would give terminally ill patients easier access to experimental medicines, won support from the White House. PHOTO: ANDREW HARNIK/ASSOCIATED PRESS




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Friday, February 3, 2017

Healthcare PRofessionals Benefit by Caring for THE WHOLE FAMILY!

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7 Shvat, 5777

I want to share this heartwarming feature story with you.


ICU patients' outcomes improve when hospital staff 

also pay attention to families of the sick


The life lesson involved here is that compassion is called for in many respects, doctors.

I know of a highly recommended book that can be shared between doctors and patients, too. You can even fill in some blanks together. 


The writer designed it that way ;^ D 



Psst: That was no accident when I used a capitalized P and R in the title of this blogpost. Compassion is good public relations at work!




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Wednesday, February 1, 2017

How to Help Yourself and the Wider World at the Same Time

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5 Shvat, 5777

Care to catch up with my life? This week I've counseled the friend of a woman with a seriously frightening case of breast cancer, and provided answers to her questions about micronutrients known to help severely ill people. I also helped someone past the puzzlement of having a confusing number of healing options to choose from. In between those interactions I've written a few articles about mental health, cooked some luscious food and spent time with friends. And it's only Wednesday...

Let's look at the future, somewhat. The lovely holiday of Tu B'Shvat is almost here, an occasion for being considerate of the wider world, including its ecology.




While I'm preparing to plant things into the earth, I'd like to share some insights about how to make life better for many people. Read along with me!



This Finnish practice could help prevent infant deaths.
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Here's another simple solution to a problem that has not always been addressed in user-friendly ways.

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Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Hot Off the Keyboard!

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4 Shvat, 5777

My self-help coaching and journalistic efforts focus on coping with setbacks. Here's a look at some of my recent writings (you may leave comments under each article at the e-counseling site): Dealing with Depression in Chat Rooms, Getting Relationship Advice on the Internet and Why Millions have Moved Over to Online Therapy.




Continuing the topic of facing setbacks and keeping life in perspective, here's another excerpt from The Formula for Joy book by Sheldon Rice, as promised:

"... A Formula for Joy is a given now. I no longer binge and starve, count calories or worry about vitamins and minerals. My only interest is to create balance in my food patterns and lifestyle, a habit I have adopted as second nature by now.

Mentally, I have undergone extensive improvement in my ability to concentrate, organize my thoughts, create order and recall facts. I can handle many problems simultaneously without confusion. Unexpected problems are met with comfort and composure.

The most dramatic emotional change was the improvement in my self-confidence. I procrastinate less in making decisions and don’t look back. I have become a better listener, more sympathetic and compassionate toward others. I experience joy and peace of mind that I had never known, a result of physical stability.

Most importantly, I developed a spiritual connection to God in reflecting on the accidents that I survived, the gift of macrobiotics, my wonderful family and restored health. All the amazing events in my life suddenly fit together as I reflected and understood their true meaning. I had developed faith in a universal order that enabled me to understand that everything is for the best. I forgive everyone in my life who had ever caused me pain and affirmed that those experiences were products of my own thoughts and actions. All is well in my world.

Penniless at Disney World–Almost 

When we moved to the US in 1980 we wanted to compensate the disruption in our kids’ lives with a visit to Disney World in Florida. It took a leap of faith to fulfill this promise as I hadn’t yet found a job, and we expected the trip to be quite expensive. Lacking a credit record or a job, we had to rely entirely on cash for all our expenses. After we bought twoday family passes to Disney World I gave our money to Dalia for safe keeping.

The heat was oppressive with high humidity that left us limp and gasping for air from the moment we stepped out of the car. The kids were cranky a good part of the time and our patience quickly wore thin. When Dalia reached for her purse that evening we stared at each other in wide eyed shock when she discovered her wallet was missing with all our cash. We were dumbfounded. The wallet had evidently slipped out of her open purse when she went to the ladies room and placed her handbag on the floor of the toilet stall.

I insisted that we go back and enjoy ourselves the next day since we still had our two-day passes. At the park entrance Dalia called the lost and found. Incredibly, the wallet was there! Inside was a note which read, “I have your money. Please call to identify yourself.” Miraculously, a lovely Puerto Rican family had found the wallet and subsequently returned every dollar to us. Their honesty allowed us to complete our holiday and my faith in humanity was restored.

Mugged in Queens 

As a Shaklee distributor I spent many evenings at the homes of clients and downline distributors. One clear, cold February night I left one of my distributor’s homes in Queens for the 45 minute drive back to Larchmont, NY, where we lived. As I unlocked my car door I heard another car screech to a stop next to me. Four wild looking young men burst out and quickly surrounded me. One grabbed my shirt and pulled me face-to-face with him. He Page 14 of 29 A Formula for Joy flung my eyeglasses to the ground while his friend took my car keys. I was stunned, realizing I was in big trouble. A frenzied youth who appeared to be drug deprived, like his other friends, shoved me face down into the back seat and searched my back pockets for a wallet, while his friend drove us to a side street. My assailant held a long knife under my ear, close enough for me to feel its cold steel. Frustrated, he slashed my down jacket in a panic till feathers flew in all directions, covering everything. The driver pointed a pistol at my head and screamed incoherent four letter obscenities to his friend holding the knife. They began a shouting match whether to cut me up or blow my brains out. I tried to imagine a knife entering my back, wondering how the blade might feel passing through my flesh. I couldn’t visualize a bullet entering my body and speeding out the other side. I blurted out that my wallet was in my front pocket and raised myself up enough for them to have access to it.

Miraculously I had about two hundred dollars in cash, enough to satisfy their needs. They took the wallet, my wedding band and cheap Rolex watch. Leaving the car keys, they shouted for me not to look up until they were gone. I was stunned to be unharmed except for three or four drops of blood where the knife had nicked my ear. A good Samaritan neighbor let me into her house to call the police. She was horrified by the way I looked with feathers flying out of my jacket.

I had two immediate problems: how to drive without glasses and how to cross the toll bridge without money to get home. I couldn’t believe my luck! My glasses were lying unharmed on the ground where they had been thrown, and I had bought bridge tokens that evening on the way to my distributor. I left my coat in the garbage before I entered the house.

The police officer taking my report told me how fortunate I was to have had ample cash. A man he interviewed under similar circumstances had been cut open from groin to his chest for lack of money. Once again I had escaped danger without injury. I wondered why my life had been spared while others have suffered so much.

Thankfully Fired

I worked for the White Plains NY Parking Authority from 1980 to 1990, fortunate to be associated with Roy Flynt, as nice a man as I could have imagined. The mayor of White Plains, on the other hand, was a ruthless individual who I avoided as much as possible.

In the late 1980s the mayor pressed Roy to take early retirement so he could replace him with someone else of his choosing. As Roy resisted this pressure, the mayor behaved so badly toward him in public and private that Roy eventually succumbed and left the Parking Authority.

Shortly thereafter, the mayor called me to inquire about some technical issue. A strong impulse overtook me and I blurted out my unsolicited feelings about his mistreatment of Roy. That was the last conversation I ever had with the Mayor. He summarily fired me, agreeing only to let me complete the few months missing for an early retirement pension.

At first I was shocked to learn that I had been fired, but that feeling quickly changed to euphoria as I realized what a great opportunity this was to return to Israel. I had been planning to leave Dalia and realized that this was my opportunity to return to the place where I truly felt at home and be close to my two soldier daughters there. The Page 15 of 29 A Formula for Joy spontaneous conversation with the mayor was one more example of divine intervention leading me to my higher good..."






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